Cyber Space Play

Once upon a time a caveman, while out for a walk, came a across a young woman. Struck by her beauty he immediately tried to get her attention by violently thumping his chest, his good imitation of Tarzan’s victory cry reverberating through the length and breadth of the forest.

His mother, seeing that he was receiving no reaction, said in disgust, “Oh, Billy, when it comes to women you have no idea. Instead of all that thumping and roaring, why don’t you give the girl what she really wants?”

Being a bright lad, he knew exactly what she meant. Quick as a wink he placed a ring of heavy rope around her ankle and took her home to his cave.

No woman could resist such a pledge of love. Not then. Not ever.

Having learned their lesson, men have been placing all sorts of rings on women’s fingers ever since. For the less demanding there were grass rings and flower rings and string rings and ribbon rings.

The more ostentatious ladies liked a bit of metal, and even more, a good-sized rock to go with it. Seeing it sparkling on their finger like a star in the sky, they would throw their arms around the lad crying, “Oh, Jimmy, I do love you so. I’ll never love anyone else but you.” The trusting fool believed it, of course, little realizing that as soon as she was shown a bigger carat, she’d be off, possibly even carrying his paltry offering with her.

What fun the girls used to derive from trying the ring now on this finger, now on that. Some thought it looked best on their thumb, others preferred to have it on their tallest digit, and others still chose a finger according to the needs of the occasion. When attending the opera, for example, an index finger was great for showing off that rock as you pointed it in this or that direction. Visiting a spinster aunt - or as the politically correct phrase in Australia has it, the “never validly married” lady - it seemed more charitable to place it on a less conspicuous finger, the out of the way small finger.

But whatever the finger, the girl always placed the ring on the right hand, the dominant hand. This was the hand that cooked and sewed and rocked the cradle and spanked bottoms of future kings and queens.

Somehow that ring gave a girl a sense of power which began to alarm her young man. She might be the queen of his heart in the privacy of her boudoir, but in the world he must always be king.

Taking his lady aside, he began whispering sweet nothings into her ear, which included let’s switch that ring from the right hand to the left.

“But it is the right hand which is the dominant one, my love.”

“Well, you see my dearest, ahem, ahem,” he could hardly tell her that if there was any dominating to be done, he wanted to be the one doing it, “the heart is on the same side as the left hand.”

“So?”

“Why, don’t you see, my sweetness, there’s a vein that runs right from the heart to the left-hand finger.”

“I didn’t know you knew anything about anatomy?”

“When you’re a man,” he says modestly, “there’s very little that you don’t know. Now about that ring.”

“But which finger, exactly, is this vein attached to?”

“Which finger can you move least?”

“The finger right next to my little finger, of course.”

“That’s the one!”

Vlady is an Australian Civil Marrige Celebrant.

She is the author of “The Complete Book of Australian Weddings” and “The Small Organisation Handbook”.

She is a member of the Queensland Civil Marriage Celebrant Association, Celebrants’ Training Association, Australian Authors’ Association and Romance Writers of Australia Association.

You can visit Vlady at her website http://www.vlady-celebrant.com

Decorations at a wedding do not go unnoticed quite the opposite
to say the least. Setting the scene for this special day will no
doubt take a lot of careful planning. This part of the wedding
is about choice, yours.

Who is behind the organizing of the wedding decorations well
normally it is the bride her friends and family that make
decisions on what is best suited. No doubt the bride will let
the groom know of her intentions for what is best at their
wedding. Grooms are usually quite happy to let his future bride
take control. Heaven forbid should he beg to differ and oppose
her decision before the marriage is consummated who knows it may
never will (Joke)

Is your wedding going to be formal or casual? Are you seeking
traditional. These factors will help you when choosing what
candles, flowers etc are needed for the decorations.

Colour coordination is important take into consideration the
colour chosen in the fabrics of your entourage, we can not have
a clash at your bash.

On helping you decide it is a good idea to take a couple of
snapshots of the chapel or venue where the reception or service
is to be held. You can then visualize how you would like it
decorated. This can be a good thing for some but don’t let your
imagination run wild.

When to put the decorations up is a good question, at least two
hours before is appropriate. Weddings are about timing so keep
this in mind for the erection of the wedding decorations. The
hall you have booked for the occasion may have catered for
another event before yours so this will all have to be cleared
away before you start on your preparations.

Remember to keep in mind the more decorations at your wedding
the less space, a cluttered atmosphere full of balloons flowers
ribbons and so on can spoil an image instead of enhance it.
Decorating the stage instead of the dance floor is a perfect way
to give of the sign that all decorations erected was arranged
and directed by common sense.

Small table centrepiece decorations instead of large are more
apt, there is nothing more infuriating having to pop your head
round a mass of foliage to see the guest sitting opposite.

Wedding decorations whether cheap or expensive really does not
matter; it is all about display exposure. If wedding decorations
are implemented with style then you have perfection

If budget is an issue speak with the wedding venue principal and
ask if other weddings are to take place the same day. If so make
your move and coordinate with the couple using the venue before
or after you. The reason being is their selection of wedding
accessories maybe ideally suited to what you had in mind for
your ceremony or reception; ask them if they would consider
sharing costs.

This surely is a practical move if your pocket is the one in
control. Do not be embarrassed to approach the other couple on
the matter as they may well be thinking the same this is no time
to procrastinate.

I find this dilemma rather common for younger couples, probably
mid or late 30s and younger.

Usually one reports, “falling out of love” and is truly
disturbed by this shift. He/she (and this is not merely a female
problem!) wants to “recapture” those feelings.

This person has found a “significant other” who has stirred
those dormant feelings and this person once again “feels in
love.”

They are determined not to “settle” for a less than an ideal
relationship, which means, of course, feeling the love feelings.

Here are some Key Points for this kind of affair. (The 6 others
are outlined in my E-book.)

1. Unfortunately, our culture (movies, songs, romance novels,
soap operas, romance comedies) teaches us that this is how it’s
supposed to be. “Falling in love” is the norm - the implication
being, that if it doesn’t happen, or if it goes away, something
is wrong - with you, your spouse or the marriage. A good
relationship must first unlearn a great deal.

2. The person who was driven to find “that loving feeling”
(reminds me of a song…) usually experiences a high degree of
guilt and conflict. He/she is often married to a “good” person
and the desire to “find that loving feeling” seems selfish
(which it is) and immature (which it is). Intuitively (and this
person usually has a great deal of intuition and sensitivity) it
is known at another level that he/she is not on the right path.

3. This person usually has a need for drama and excitement. Life
easily becomes a soap opera. Emotional juice from the fall-out
of emotionally intense relationships reigns rather than living
life from the core of who one is.

4. There is little understanding, or perhaps healthy models, of
the shifts needed as a relationship matures. For example,
“falling out of love” usually happens when the attractors become
the distracters. For example: His love for fun and spontaneity,
which drew her initially to him, becomes irresponsibility. Her
stability and calm, which drew him initially to her, become
control.

5. The person “looking for love” is actually looking for the
ideal, someone out there, who will project back to him/her that
he/she is OK. No, more than OK, close to perfect.

6. This person needs to be adored, or think another adores
him/her, because there is a lack of inner strength and solid
identity. The other becomes my world, because I lack a world.
Being “in love” is the panacea for my emptiness.

7. Sexual intercourse does not need to be a part of these
relationships. Sexual activity may indeed END the relationship
or at least move it to the point where the attractors become,
again, the distracters. The idealized images may be held
together by long phone calls, gifts, holding, love letters,
e-mails, etc.

8. This type of affair often occurs when there is a “lull” in
the marriage relationship. The responsibility of raising
children, starting and maintaining a career, paying bills, etc.
become the focal point for the couple. Romance becomes a foreign
word. People are especially vulnerable for this type of affair
after the children are in school and/or the oldest child reaches
early adolescence. (There are good reasons for this, from a
family systems perspective, but I won’t get into that here.)

Tip: If your spouse is struggling with this type of
relationship, make sure you hold and care for your self. Your
spouse does not have the capacity to do this for you (or anyone)
at this point. Yes, you are ok. Her/his affair says less about
you and much more about the emptiness within her/him. It is time
for you to know you better. Model for him/her what it means to
be a person with a core, with integrity, with boundaries, with
values, with meaning, with purpose and actively figure out what
your needs are, and get them met. Maybe she will ask questions.
Maybe she will not. Maybe soon. Maybe later.

For more information on the different kinds of affairs, what
causes them, the probabilities of them ending a marriage and
what you can do about it, visit my site.

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